19 Ways To Know You’re Loved
1. They think about you when you’re not around.
They see a billboard that reminds them of you and they text
you. They remember you said you needed dish soap and they bring you some
because they were running errands. They think about places you guys could go to
dinner tonight and then invite you.
2. They’ll take care of you when you’re sick.
And tell you you’re beautiful even when you look mucus-y and
nasty.
3. They listen to you. Really listen.
And respond with thoughtful, relevant insights.
4. They get into your interests and want to share their own
with you.
They hate comic books but they’ll come with you to Forbidden
Planet. They don’t get sports, but they root for the Giants with you. They’re
psyched to show you their stamp collection or take you to an antique show.
5. They plan for the future.
Whether it’s a trip or a concert — placing you in their
future means they see a future with you.
6. Your thoughts and opinions are treated with respect.
They never push their views on you or laugh at/dismiss
yours, even if they’re wildly different. They should love you for your unique
brain.
7. They are eager to help you, and gracious about accepting
your help.
If they love you, they want to make your life easier. And if
they love you, they should be able to accept help from someone who loves them
back.
8. They put your needs above their own.
Not in an unhealthy way, but in a selfless way. (Hopefully,
you’re both doing this and it even outs.)
9. You know you can trust them.
You feel safe, heard and secure. Similarly…
10. You never want to break the truth you’ve earned from
them.
If someone loves you, they’ve been vulnerable with you.
Don’t abuse that.
11. They support you.
They come to your art show. They encourage you to practice
with your band. They don’t get jealous or upset when you have to work late.
They genuinely want you to succeed.
12. You share a sense of humor.
They think you’re funny. You think they’re funny. That’s
true love.
13. They give you freedom to grow.
You don’t feel stifled, stuck or in a rut.
14. You are loyal to each other.
You feel like they are on your team. You’re a partnership.
You’re a twosome. You’re in this together.
15. They don’t put you down.
Nagging might be part of The Game handbook, but it’s no good
in a relationship. They shouldn’t be putting you down. They should be building
you up. If they’re doing anything else, they’re insecure and can’t truly love
you.
16. They don’t hide anything from you.
Trust, communication and honesty become more important than
anything else. It’s humbling and scary, but if you’re truly loved, it’ll come
naturally.
17. You are comfortable being silent or away from each
other.
Someone who needs to keep talking or needs to cling to you
in social situations might seem like they love you, but they actually just need
you. It’s not the same, and it’s not as good. If they love you, you will both
be secure in comfortable silence, and have the ability to be apart — but still
catch each other’s eyes across the room and just…know.
18. They don’t let you get away with bad habits.
They want you to be your best you and they won’t take you
being depressive or hating on yourself. They want you to love yourself, as much
as they love you.
19. They tell you that they love you…
…and in your gut, you truly believe them.
20. They will bring you closer to GOD.
This is the best way to know that you are loved. Nothing is more special than a relationship with someone with God between them and their relationship.